When Mentors Adjust, Youth Thrive

Drew, A. L., & Spencer, R. (2021). Mentors’ approach to relationship-building and the supports they provide to youth: A qualitative investigation of community-based mentoring relationships. Children and Youth Services Review, 121, 105846. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.childyouth.2020.105846

Introduction

Drew and Spencer (2021) investigated how mentors build relationships with youth in community-based programs and how these approaches influence the supports mentors provide. Unlike prior research that sought a “best” mentoring style, this study emphasizes the importance of fit between mentor approach and the unique circumstances of each relationship.

Methods

The study analyzed 16 mentor-youth pairs from Big Brothers Big Sisters programs, using longitudinal interviews with mentors, mentees, and parents over two years. Thematic analysis of narrative summaries captured how mentors approached relationship-building, interacted with parents and staff, and provided support.

Results

Matches thrived when mentors’ strategies aligned with youth needs, parent communication styles, and program structures. Three patterns emerged: “good fit,” “no fit, no fix,” and “no fit, some fix.” Mentors who adapted when their initial approach faltered provided broader support and sustained relationships. Previous mentoring experience did not consistently predict better outcomes instead success depended on flexibility, empathy, and responsiveness.

Discussion

Findings highlight that adaptability is central to mentoring effectiveness. Mentors who listened, adjusted expectations, and sought guidance were more likely to sustain long-term, supportive relationships. Those unable to adapt often ended relationships early, limiting potential benefits for youth.

Implications for Mentoring Programs

Programs should avoid one-size-fits-all training. Instead, staff should help mentors tailor approaches to each match and provide coaching when challenges arise. Recruiting adaptable mentors and supporting ongoing reflection may increase match longevity and youth outcomes.

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